Saying No

I talk about authority a lot. That’s because it’s one of the things that holds us back the most in our lives.

Not because it’s bad. Not because it’s trying to hold us back.

It’s because the system has found the best way to get people to do what it wants is to have them seek permission for everything they do.

It’s safer. It’s more predictable.

But it doesn’t help anyone, least of all you.

And you can tell if you’ve fallen for this conditioning with one simple test.

It’s when you say “yes” when really you’d like to say “no”.

When that happens, you are gently proving to yourself that you’d rather trust external authority than your own internal authority.

You’d rather do what you should do, what’s expected of you, what is a normal thing to do, rather than what you want to do.

(And if you say we can’t all just go round doing what we want to do, that’s another sign).

I’m not suggesting you change your behaviour, change your life or go out and be an asshole.

I’m suggesting you become aware of those times you say “yes” when you want to say “no”, and just ask yourself why that might be.

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